Coming to terms with a miscarriage is a personal experience, and varies from person to person. For some, the thought of another pregnancy is daunting, to say the least, and they would rather wait a few months to give themselves time to come to terms with the loss. For others, another pregnancy is an important part of the healing process and is something they want to do right away.
It’s important to remember that there is no ‘right’ way to heal emotionally after a miscarriage, and there is no ‘right’ time to try again. This is a decision you and your partner must make together, taking into account how each of you feel.
If you’ve been given the all clear from your healthcare provider, you are free to start trying again as soon as you feel ready. If your doctor has advised you to wait, find out why. In some cases, for example if you experienced an ectopic pregnancy, your doctor may advise you to wait a bit longer before trying to conceive.
Research has found that falling pregnant again within six months reduces the risk of experiencing a second miscarriage. This may be one reason why some couples choose to try sooner rather than later. It is important that you feel that you are physically and emotionally ready to try again.
Some doctors advise waiting until you have had at least one menstrual cycle, simply because this makes it easier to date the pregnancy. If you experienced an early miscarriage, you may find that your cycle returns to normal almost immediately. If you suffered a miscarriage later in the pregnancy, you may have to wait for your cycle to return. In some cases, this could take up to a few months.
Trying to conceive after a miscarriage can be emotionally tough, and you may find yourself feeling anxious or worried about whether you will conceive, and even whether you may suffer from another miscarriage. Talk to your partner about how you feel, and allow him to share his worries with you. You may also find that speaking to friends and family, especially those who have experienced miscarriage, helps you to deal with your emotions.
Don’t be afraid to talk to your healthcare provider about your concerns. They are there to support you through this, and will be able to offer tailored advice based on your unique situation.